DOES WHAT YOUR HUSBAND THINK OF YOU NAKED SABOTAGE YOUR WEIGHT LOSS?
Do you ever stop to think what your husband or partner might think of you naked? I do, all the time. I’m really not convinced he can really like what he sees. I don’t think this is because I have low self-esteem or anything like that, but I think perhaps he and men in general are consistently inconsistent! They appear to like all women, proving the common denominator is being a woman not the size of your butt or boobs! Of course women and men think differently in how we view our own attractiveness but can this be affecting what you do to lose weight?
IS YOUR HUSBAND BLIND TO YOUR WEIGHT?
I’ve been 64 kg and I’ve been 94 kg whilst knowing my husband. And he’s seen me naked at every weight in between! Just to give you an idea, I met him at 94 kg, got down to 64 and then back up again! Nothing has changed in what he says to me. He thinks I’m hot, have great boobs and literally wants to get me into bed at any available moment I might give him the go ahead. How can he possibly think that being at both extremes of my weight are no different in the hotness department?
That’s biology I think. Think HORMONES. I know he loves me and that’s his way of showing it. I just don’t give it any credibility!
The general consensus seems to me to be a little hypocritical. On one hand it’s don’t worry about what others think of you. On the other it’s men like fuller women, your husband loves you the way you are so don’t worry. Aren’t men/husbands ‘other people’?
For a start it’s not easy convincing us women that we’re hot. It doesn’t matter who it is. For whatever reason we think we should improve our looks, lose weight etc. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. The facts are most men are going to say they think their wife is hot because if they actually said the opposite, well we can guess what might or might not happen!
IT’S YOUR HEALTH THAT COUNTS
Men are wired to love the female body and if you happen to have one, chances are he’s going to love it. That’s great. BUT don’t let that be your cue to not get healthy and feel better about yourself!
I believe at the end of the day, it’s still about what you yourself think/feel about yourself. Being overweight or obese is never ok, no matter what your hubby might tell you. We have to start seeing it as a serious health issue, not just a self-esteem issue. It’s not just a question of beauty and attractiveness.
If you know you’re overweight or obese, you’d be doing yourself and your husband a favour getting on a health journey. I’m sure he’d want you around for a long time. So get fit and healthy and increase your longevity. This will undoubtedly make you look and feel so much better in the process.
ACCEPT HIS COMPLIMENTS
Having said that, I suggest we accept the compliments. I know my husband believes I have the greatest boobs on the planet but I’ve seen better! Things like saggy boobs, cellulite and stretch marks aren’t going to kill you. So try not to get too caught up in those things you can’t change and don’t have serious health consequences. We’d all love perky boobs and butts and no cellulite, but from that perspective accept your husband’s blindness! This definitely is a case of beauty is in the eye of the beholder so believe it and just focus on being the healthiest you possibly can be.
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